Sunday, November 17, 2013

Sunday afternoon in Arkansas.

Aspiring virtuosos at Cullendale Church

“One great idea of the biblical revelation is that God is manifest in the ordinary, in the actual, in the daily, in the now, in the concrete incarnations of life, and not through purity codes and moral achievement contests, which are seldom achieved anyway… We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking… The most courageous thing we will ever do is to bear humbly the mystery of our own reality.” ― Richard Rohr 



Mr. Brodes has the giggles.

Tis the season to shed your extra leaves.

Rachelle the wise.

My sweet sister Rachelle Krohn is my personal Oracle of Delphi. Her wisdom is the variety that prompts emotional action. I can sense her thinking at the other end of our long-distance phone calls bridging one side of the country to the other, hear her softly breathing that last long breath before she gifts me her words of advice in answer to my questions. Her voice is like honey, and her words are like a hearty crock-pot meal, filling and warming as you chew them over. I call my mom for sympathy, but it's Rachelle the yogic sage that I call for real answers and insight.
     As I sit on the front porch today watching the leaves drift from swaying trees I am prompted to share her Advice on Grounding.
     I had called to tell her about some stress I was going through, all the things that our family has going on this time of year. She inspired me to action immediately with her thoughts.
     First, every other living thing on the planet is in sync with the earth. Animals don't decide to eat strawberries in the dead of winter, or to host a big Winter Solstice party during hibernation season. Only modern humans have the luxury of going against natural flow. But we still have an innate instinct to follow the flow of the seasons, and can experience great peace from doing so. I can't count how many of my Facebook friends posted photos of Starbucks pumpkin spice lattes at the beginning of the cool season, and just as many will post photos of tan legs in swimsuits at the beach enjoying ice cream cones at the start of summer. We crave cinnamon candles and Christmas music in the winter, pastel skirts and lemonade in the springtime. This is the manifestation of our old buried instincts syncing us with the earth.
     In the Autumn, we modern humans tend to rev up instead of doing what we should be doing, slowing down and shedding our leaves. Why do trees drop their leaves? So they can pull their energy into their roots and trunk and really ground themselves in preparation for the cold season. After this seasonal grounding, they're ready in the Spring to burst with blossoms, leaves, fruits and berries, and new limbs.
    Rachelle told me to do some yoga poses where I stood like a tree and grounded the bottoms of my feet into the bare earth, imagining to let everything else go except my foundation. She instructed me not to take on the new projects I was thinking of starting (and instinctively resisting, thus the stress), and to stop some of the activities I had already committed to. She then told me to get out there and get grounded. I've taken it seriously and have slowed down the pace of our busy family, watching movies in pajamas on Friday nights with friends, donating hand-me-downs that were clogging up the girls' drawers, simplifying our evening dinners. You don't have to be a lush, flowering tree heavy with foliage all year long. Follow your instincts even if you have to force yourself, and strip your routine down to the minimum for a short season. Write down all the things that can be pruned back for a while. You'll be ready to conquer the world and take on new projects in a few short months. The stronger the roots, the taller the tree. Thank you yogi Rachelle!

Mr. Broome's autumn garden of turnip greens.



How to Do Tree Pose in Yoga

If you’ve ever tripped off a curb or slipped on a patch of ice, you probably understand the benefit of having a good sense of balance. Practicing balancing poses in yoga, such as Tree Pose, will help you gain both physical and mental steadiness and poise.
Tree Pose improves focus and concentration while calming your mind. Its Sanskrit name, “Vrksasana” (vrik-SHAH-suh-nuh), comes from two words:
  • “Vrksa,” which means “tree”
  • “Asana,” which means “pose”
The word “asana” can also be translated as “seat.” Many of the original ancient yoga poses were seated postures. As the practiced developed, standing poses were introduced, but the seated, meditative aspect still remained. Tree Pose, with its calming and meditative benefits, is like a standing variation of a seated meditation posture. Keeping calm and focused while balancing on one foot will teach you to sway gently like a tree in the wind, steady and sure no matter what the outside circumstances may be.

Benefits of Tree Pose

Tree Pose stretches the thighs, groins, torso, and shoulders. It builds strength in the ankles and calves, and tones the abdominal muscles. The pose also helps to remedy flat feet and is therapeutic for sciatica.

Like a tree, extend your roots down and blossom your arms up toward the sun. The stronger the roots, the taller the tree.
Baron Baptiste

Most notably, though, Tree Pose improves your sense of balance and coordination. Regular practice will improve your focus and your ability to concentrate in all areas of your life, particularly during those times when you might normally feel “off-balance.” This pose has a positive impact on the grace and ease with which you approach all circumstances, even outside of your yoga class. It teaches the benefits of a meditative state of mind, and is a gentle reminder that you can bring calm focus and clear-headedness to all situations, not just when you are practicing a seated meditation.

Cautions

Due to the balancing nature of the posture, do not practice Tree Pose if you are currently experiencing headaches, insomnia, low blood pressure, or if you are lightheaded and/or dizzy. Those with high blood pressure should not raise their arms overhead in the pose. Always work within your own range of limits and abilities. If you have any medical concerns, talk with your doctor before practicing yoga.

Instructions

  1. Begin standing in Mountain Pose (Tadasana), with your arms at your sides. Distribute your weight evenly across both feet, grounding down equally through your inner ankles, outer ankles, big toes, and baby toes.
  2. Shift your weight to your left foot. Bend your right knee, then reach down and clasp your right inner ankle. Use your hand to draw your right foot alongside your inner left thigh. Do not rest your foot against your knee, only above or below it. Adjust your position so the center of your pelvis is directly over your left foot. Then, adjust your hips so your right hip and left hip are aligned.
  3. Rest your hands on your hips and lengthen your tailbone toward the floor. Then, press your palms together in prayer position at your chest, with your thumbs resting on your sternum.
  4. Fix your gaze gently on one, unmoving point in front of you.
  5. Draw down through your left foot. Press your right foot into your left thigh, while pressing your thigh equally against your foot.
  6. Inhale as you extend your arms overhead, reaching your fingertips to the sky. Rotate your palms inward to face each other. If your shoulders are more flexible, you can press your palms together in prayer position, overhead.
  7. Hold for up to one minute. To release the pose, step back into Mountain Pose. Repeat for the same amount of time on the opposite side.

Modifications & Variations

Practicing Tree Pose can be a great way to gain balance, grace, and poise — for beginners and advanced students. Try these simple changes to adapt the pose to your current abilities:
  • If you are unable to bring your foot to your thigh, rest your foot alongside your calf muscle or the ankle of your standing leg, instead. Rest the toes of your raised foot on the floor if you need extra assistance balancing.
  • If you are very unsteady, try practicing the pose with your back against a wall for extra support. Alternatively, you can place a chair next to the standing-leg side of your body and rest your hand on the back of the chair for extra support.
  • For a greater challenge when your arms are overhead, close your eyes. Practice balancing without using the outside world for reference.

Tips

In order to fully gain the meditative benefits of Tree Pose, it’s important to stay grounded and calm in the pose, while still maintaining alignment. Here are a couple of tips to help you stand up as tall as a tree:
  • Take your time. As with any balancing pose, it’s often easier to come into the pose slowly and with awareness. If you enter the pose quickly, you are more likely to lose your balance, which makes it more difficult to re-gain your balance once it’s been lost.
  • Mountain Pose (Tadasana) provides the structural foundation for Tree Pose. Thoroughly review the instructions for Mountain Pose before practicing Tree Pose.
  • Work the pose from the ground up. Balance your weight entirely across your standing foot — across the inner and outer ankles, big toe and baby toe. Then, bring your awareness to the shin, calf, and thigh of your standing leg. Find alignment in your hips, tailbone, pelvis, and belly; and then in your collarbones, shoulder blades, arms, and neck. Extend the pose through the crown of your head. When you are ready, you can then raise your arms overhead.
  • Never rest the foot of your raised leg directly on your knee or at the side of your knee joint!
  • To help with balancing, bring your awareness to the center line of your body — the vertical line that runs directly through the center of your head, neck, and torso.
  • Although regular practice of Tree Pose will tone the abdominal muscles, weaker abdominal muscles can make it difficult to balance. Add extra core-strengthening work into your practice to help with balancing (and with the rest of your standing poses!). Some examples of core-toning poses are Boat Pose (Navasana) and Plank Pose (Kumbhakasana).

Root Down to Rise Up

By regularly practicing balancing poses, you gain concentration, focus, poise, coordination — and a steady and balanced mind. Tree Pose connects you to the earth, as you root down through your standing foot. As you balance in the pose, feel the slight and gentle sway of your body. Just like a tree in the breeze, you’ll grow in confidence, standing tall as you face life’s challenges with grace and ease.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Before and afters are so fun! BFF's


"Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything."
Muhammad Ali

I used to spend my days with Andrea Allen, doing yoga, hiking desert trails,
 and pushing barefooted toddlers in swings at our neighborhood park.
Best time of my life! I have had the gift of spectacular friends.

Now I spend my days under the oaks chit-chatting about Civil War battles and
the instability of the global economy with Lieutenant Commander Warren W. Broome.
He's 91! Also one of the best times of my life:)


Dear hunting club husbands: the Wife Union has voted for a Strike!


We demand an attitude adjustment, boys!

We went to dinner  all week
with Jason looking like this.
Even Mr. Brodes has turned primal on me!











Jason killed 3 deer in the first two days this week.  


Dear Men of Arkansas,


It's been a long first week of gun hunting season. We've put up with the 4am alarm clock, unkempt facial hair, giant bottles of Scent Buster shampoo falling on our toes in the shower, bloody piles of towels in the hallway, antlers drying on the fence, muddy floor mats, nonstop episodes of "Bow Madness" clogging up the DVR, bullets, camo, smashed pop cans, and the odor of dirt and pheromones. While we love the freezers full of venison and all the jerky, we have one request: please clean up after yourselves. You may have gone all "Fred Flinstone and Barney Rubble" for the week, but we are not Wilma and Betty. We are more Jane Jetson and unless you plan on bringing in Rosie the robot maid to scrub the muck and pheromones out of the bathtub and load your dishes into the dishwasher, you might want to do it yourselves. If you chose to continue to be  cavemen INSIDE the house, we will have no choice but to devolve too. And trust us, nobody wants an Ice Age wife.
     


This is what you're used to. This is me with no dishes in the sink
thinking  about how much I love you, babe.
Me on strike. See that nutty look in my eyes? Don't make me go there.



Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Sometimes I miss the suburbs.

Nearby beautiful but lonesome country road.
We were deep into our cold morning power-walk on Saturday when Jason noticed that I was wearing my bright white Oregon Ducks hat. He stopped dead in the middle of the frosty street to question my sanity in such a choice. It makes me look tan. That was the only stuttering reason I could produce.
Mr. Brodes is warmed by his
 hospital hot water bottle.
     Who knew that it was the first day of gun hunting season and that the forest surrounding us was packed with odorless camouflaged hunters scanning the thickets for a glimmer of WHITE?! I thought deer were brown, or tan, or burnt sienna. I kept walking, then stopped because Jason had muttered under his breath that I had a high probability of being shot with that hat, then decided to press on anyway hunters be d*mned, then opted to shout "Don't shoot!" at random intervals as a precaution. The muttering continued, and I noticed Jason was genuinely agitated and on the alert. So I had a little screaming melt-down in the middle of the stupid, frosty, deserted, hunter-infested country lane. Jason took his orange hat off to correct my ridiculous wardrobe choice (he was pretty much head to toe covered in precautionary colors), told me to stop crying, and continued on.
     Sometimes I miss the suburbs so much!!!!! I've spent the week thinking that Better Homes and Gardens and Country Living Magazine got into my head and made me ruin my life. I've been a West-Coast, city girl, Yankee forever. I'm tired of Wal-Mart and trees and hospitality and southern accents and potholes and fresh air and quietude. I should be able to go for a walk without fearing accidental death by deer rifle.
     I went to bed longing with all my heart for Target, and traffic, and the busy subliminal soundscape comprised of neighbors and vehicles and airplanes and things that signal to my brain that I'm where I belong in the world. The quiet beauty of my neighborhood road makes me feel lost. But when I had Target right down the road I didn't care about it, and wished I had a more simple life surrounded by trees and hospitality. I have a vision for my little family, and I feel that we're on the right track with this move and that I'm just homesick. Anyone else ever go through this? How long did it take you to feel really at home in a completely unfamiliar new place?


My old stomping grounds with neighbors all around.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Sometimes it's ok to quit.


Last summer our spunky 12-year-old almost lost her life to the desert heat. Worst experience our family has ever survived for obvious reasons, and in fact it's hard to think about even long enough to type this post. I'm sure I still need therapy. We were blessed with strangers who kept her cells alive with their skilled knowledge of CPR, paramedics who acted quickly, and the hand of God touching her little body with the breath of life. Jason and I spent a week in the ICU while sweet Brynna fought for life after being cooked in the hot sand under the scorching July sun, lost on a bike that she was supposedly riding up to the next cul-de-sac. 
   
 Here's the link to her story if you want to be depressed with me: 


    I was so overwhelmingly happy that she was alive! And that's how I got swindled into buying kittens. One day her tiny voice quiveringly asked from the hospital bed, "Mommy, if I'm ok and don't die, can I have two kittens when I get home?" She was so tiny, so frail, a sunburned jumble of skinny legs and arms sprinkled with golden freckles and topped with a messy blonde bun, a tangle of IV's and monitors cocooning her. 
    I know that lots of people love cats, and I love to visit their cats. But I had childhood asthma and can't breathe within a mile of a cat, and I was preparing for surgery too and had a long road ahead of me that Fall. But, oh the cute freckles, and the heart monitors! Who could say no?
"Princess Buttercup."
    Thus we bought two kittens from an animal adoption agency a few weeks later. They were so sweet, so fluffy, so huggable. Kittens really are delightful...when you aren't on narcotics recovering from a month of hospitalization while raising 4 kids in a new house with white carpet and a litter box that must have been doused in kitten repellant, a lot of it. My life came to be literally ruled by walking fluff balls full of pee (and poo). (and barf). I would wait for my painkillers to kick in in the mornings so I could drag myself into the living room and see how many piles of kitty compost there were. It was hard to bend over because of my fresh abdominal scars, so I would grab a bucket and my cleaning supplies, snap on rubber gloves, press my back against the wall and slide down to the floor. I would scrub and cry and sometimes even say borderline bad words in my head, and think to myself that those kitties were the straw that was breaking the camel's back. But Brynna loved them! She always wanted kitties! We had pledged to the animal adoption people that we would love and support their sweet kittens for life, and I believe in commitment, and we are a responsible family and it wouldn't be a good example of endurance or dedication if I drove them back to the shelter after a few short weeks. Have you ever read a book entitled "Just Quit"? No, of course not. Neither have I.
     But may I be the first to tell you that sometimes it's ok to quit. We take on so many extra responsibilities, and there's no reason to let them to negate our happiness. Those cute kitties were two things too many in my life, and I had to recognize that I had done my best and it was time to STOP. They sold on Craigslist the minute I posted these fluffy pictures. I did have a mini panic attack when my husband told me later that the couple who came to get them looked like COLLEGE KIDS driving a ratty sedan who said they didn't know what probiotics were or where to buy organic kitty food or raw goat milk, but they showed great excitement about the cuteness of Brynna's soon to be ex-kittens. I never regretted that bold decision to sell the kitties. Life looked better the next day. Be brave enough to know when to quit. 


Brynna got to keep the money and a month's worth of memories.


Monday, November 11, 2013

Person of the Week: Lieutenant Commander Warren W. Broome USN.

Mr. Broome taking a rare break under the trees.

This summer I became aware of an inspiration right in our own backyard as we drove out to Wal-Mart one morning. Back under the oaks and hickories a few houses down in our neighborhood sat a beautiful old Dodge, so perfectly aged and worn in all the right spots that it could've been in a retro poster. The back end was full to the brim with branches and debris, and off in the distance a tall sinewy man bent over a thorny row of Beauty Berry bushes with a long-handled axe, hacking forcibly at their thick wooden roots. The man looked to be at least 70 years old yet worked with the grace and strength of teenager. He himself was perfectly worn in all the right spots just like his Dodge, with neatly trimmed white hair peaking beneath his sun bleached Red Cross baseball cap, bright gleaming eyes set atop strong and surprisingly unwrinkled cheek bones, and an outfit that hasn't been seen in stores in maybe two decades comprised of denim overalls, a plaid shirt, and softly rugged work boots. I had to know who he was, so my next morning jog was down the road in his direction for an introduction. 
     And that is how I came to have the delight of spending a few hours a week leaning against a tree in the forest while Brody throws sticks and I learn the wisdom of the world from a 91 year old (yes I was off by 20 years!) Southern gentleman. Lieutenant Commander Warren W. Broome USN is a true inspiration and embodies the magnificent spirit of our great American Veterans.
     Mr. Broome was born in January of 1922 in Akin County, South Carolina. His father, James Manford Broome, was the local postmaster and ran the only grocery store for miles around, and at age 48 or so had decided he wanted a family. Word spread, and a lovely candidate named Nina Brinson of German descent came to town to be courted, and it all went well I presume because they wed and lived happily together for many years. At the time of his birth, Mr. Broome's home town of Brown's Hill was little more than a railroad stop for the  C & SC Railroad. The Charleston and South Carolina passenger train would start in Augusta, Georgia in the morning, run the route out to somewhere in South Carolina, then return. You could get out in front of the passenger train in Brown's Hill and flag the engineer, who would stop the train for you to hop on. Mr. Broome was really destined to be a railroad man, but the military took him in another direction. 
     His family home was eventually bought by a man named Mr. Starr whom nobody liked because he was just a "d*mned rich Yankee" from the North (I always giggle when Mr. Broome talks about Yankees because I am one). When Mr. Starr died he willed the whole enormous property to the Audubon Society. The year they married, somewhere around 1920,  James Broome built his wife a little chicken coop on their property so she could keep a small flock for eggs. It was built from such good lumber materials that "that sucker is still there today", according to Mr. Broome. It's in disrepair, but it's still recognizable. If you ever find yourself off of State Hwy 28 in South Carolina, stop at the Beach Island Historic Society Gift Shop which Mr. Broome generously funded and you can see the big Lieutenant Commander Warren W. Broome sign and ask if they can show you to a hundred year old henhouse. 
     Mr. Broome served in three wars: WWII, Korea, and Vietnam. He joined the Navy as an Apprentice Seaman, with only an eighth grade education, and retired 30 years later as a Lieutenant Commander. That's quite a jump! Every time he had shore duty, he enrolled in night classes, doing two years at the University of Hawaii among others. He attributes his diligent pursuit of education as the reason for his advancement to an officer, although I might add that his rock solid and unwavering disposition likely had a lot to do with it as well.  
     During one of the major battles of Guandalcanal during WWII, Mr. Broome was on a destroyer named the USS Fletcher DD445. They were engaged with the Japanese Fleet who had battleships, cruisers, and other vessels. Our small American fleet of 13 ships went down between two columns of Japanese ships on the night of Friday, November 13, 1942 for a truly awful fight. Five of our ships were sunk, the rest were hit, but the USS Fletcher, the 13th ship in the line-up, left unscathed. The ship directly in front of them literally disintigrated directly in their path under a Japanese blast, but Mr. Broome's lucky ship was the lone survivor. And that is why 13 is Mr. Broome's lucky number to this day, for good reason. 
    On another night, the fantail of the USS Northhampton was hit and the whole ship sank dramatically. Sailors were jumping overboard into the sea, and Mr. Broome had orders to take his ship and rescue as many as he could. They pulled 600 sailors from the sea that night. He says they lost a few, but rescued a lot. I wondered as he told me this story how many of us alive today have Lieutenant Commander Warren W. Broome to thank for saving our own grandfathers or uncles during those brutal long-ago battles. He certainly contributed, with all the brave veterans of WWII, to turning the tide for the Allies and winning an impossible war. The world would look much different today without the iron-willed likes of Mr. Broome.
    Mr. Broome finally retired from his several careers in 1976 and followed his second wife to my new little neighborhood under the oaks in Arkansas. He's the busiest man I know, keeping to his "ship's daily plan" with precision. I cannot believe how many times in a week he fills and empties the back of that Dodge, grooming the acres of woodland that he owns with tenderness and satisfaction. He aims to be the oldest living veteran of WWII. I'm not sure how long he'll have to live to accomplish that, but he's on the right track. My little Brody knows that rain or shine, whenever we see that old Dodge out under the trees, "Broome" as Brody calls him isn't very far away. "What the heck is Broome doing today?" Brody will ask, hoping I'll load him into the jogging stroller to investigate firsthand, really hoping that it's Bonfire Day when half the sticks and pine needles in the neighborhood go up in dancing flames on Mr. Broome's towering ash heap. I hope so too, so I can sit at a bonfire and hear stories of America's greatness from a stalwart hero. What a life!


Proof of his industriousness in the bed of an old Dodge.
Digging up those pesky Beauty Berry bushes by the dozen.
     


Sunday, November 10, 2013

Sunday afternoon in Arkansas.

Church is over, time to be tom-boys.
Little man in his Sunday best.
   

"The difference between listening to a radio sermon and going to church is almost like the difference between calling your girl on the phone and spending an evening with her."

-Dwight L. Moody

Before and afters are so much fun!

Brynna at the Grand Canyon on No School Friday last Fall.

Brynna at our own private sand dunes on No School Friday this Fall.

Our own private sand dunes on No School Friday.

Climbing the dunes

I remember the days, not so long ago, when "no school" inevitably meant "jump through hoops to entertain 4 kids." As a disclaimer, my kids would all be entertained indefinitely by electronics, but I'm one of those nuts who likes her kids to do "real" things like hiking, swimming, playing tennis, or frequenting museums, so my kids almost never get to just sit in front of the TV in pajamas all day. My son had a pen-pal from another school when he was in 3rd grade. The pen-pal was named Jesus Diaz,which my son found very cool even after I taught him to pronounce it the right way and NOT the Bible way. Every week he received a crisp, stamped letter in the mail from Jesus, and it became apparent that in the Diaz casa video games were not El Diablo like they were in our home. Every letter described Jesus's weekly gaming triumphs, and my little Mason began to feel disenfranchised and deprived. I asked if he wanted to dust off the old Wii and play a few games which he did, with much enthusiasm. But Mason was used to doing more active activities, and after a while he put down the Wii remote thingy and headed outside to skateboard with the neighbors. He said later that "Jesus just pretends to do stuff, but he's not really doing it." Very profound. Sometimes I wish we were just pretending to "do stuff" because it's easier, but I have a screw loose somewhere in my noggin that just won't allow me to let my kids wallow in cable-induced comas.
Brody at the South Rim of the Grand Canyon
    So school holidays usually required a high degree of planning and coordinating. Until our move from the city, I had multiple passes to various venues including the Phoenix Zoo, Science Museum, Natural History Museum (full of awesome mechanical dinosaurs and a bellowing mammoth), and a rock climbing gym. We also lived in a country club community with multiple parks, sports fields, basketball courts, swimming pools, golf, tennis, hiking and biking trails, and more. Additionally, I had multiple park passes, a Tonto National Forest pass, and annual passes to several scenic sites where we could picnic, hike, and enjoy nature. Plus our annual pass to Silver Dollar City in Branson, Missouri a thousand miles away. And we had a POGO Pass which got us into Diamondback games, amusement parks, paintball, laser tag, and oh my gosh no wonder I'm worn out at age 39. Seriously.
    By way of example, we had both a Friday and the following Monday off in October last year, so to me that just screamed last minute Grand Canyon adventure. Thus I spent Tuesday through Thursday booking hotels and packing. Good times for sure, but very complicated and expensive and tiring with a family of six. Just ordering six different ice cream cones at the Grand Canyon snack shack was complicated, expensive and tiring. And those three words embodied every No School weekend.

 

Me and Brodes on my way-too-fast ATV
 But now we live in the South, in a tiny town where there aren't any Natural History Museums or zoos or tourist traps, so last Friday we had the best and most relaxing No School day ever. We have a family full of new ATV's for deer hunting season, and friends with hundreds of acres of land in Bearden, Arkansas where the quietude of wind shuffling yellowed leaves in the oaks is interrupted only by the splash of a beaver skimming through his lily pad trail in the pond. The men took off on the Polaris Ranger to check the catfish lines, and I took two giggling girls and little Brody to enjoy the whole afternoon climbing our own private sand dunes. When a cluster of black storm clouds crept over the treetops and I called for a retreat, I realized that I was very far from civilization, much further than city girls usually get. It took hard fast riding through mud puddles to make it back to the farm before the dark and cold swallowed us up. The men pulled their first fat catfish of the week off the traut line that evening using Zote Soap for bait. The catfish go crazy for Zote Soap, which is a handy tip if you're a clueless city person. We finished the afternoon with hot cocoa at the kitchen island in Melinda Davison's beautiful warm farm kitchen, surrounded by honey colored cupboards and shelves full of shining fire-engine red ceramics, antique chickens, and a truly impressive collection of hot sauces from around the world. It was the perfect day because it blended relaxation and recreation in optimal proportions with minimal effort. Where has the South been all my life?


Thursday, November 7, 2013

Be happy today.



Chloe jumping for joy:)

“When it's over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms. 

When it is over, I don't want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, 

and real.
I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument. 

I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.” 


-Mary Oliver

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Elevated perspective.

Yoga on the cliffs at Lake Powell on a chilly October day last Fall


There was a time last Fall when my life unraveled, as lives sometimes do. Illness, surgery, loss of our business, relocation, personal conflict with an old friend turned ex-business partner, near loss of our daughter, teenager angst, toddler angst, and so many other things that we all face at times in life. It felt like I unfortunately had every struggle in my life piled on my shoulders in a few months time, and if you've ever been there yourself, you know how lost and overwhelmed you can become. As I lost control of my life, I felt very small. I was infinitesimal, so small, so unquantifiable that I was truly immeasurable and therefore absolutely without power. A small crumb tossed on the crescendoing storm of life.
     When my legs were strong enough to carry my 97 emaciated pounds up a mountain, I set off into the desert on a hesitating hike and made my way to the top of the lowest peak in our neighborhood. It was in that moment, wobbling ankles trembling against my Salomons, that I realized the great secret of perspective. Mountains are magical because they elevate the sightline. I felt small when on the same plane as my big problems, but when I stood on top of a mountain my big problems became a speck on the horizon and the tip of my shoelace loomed larger that the roof of my house far below in the dusty distance. I couldn't change the circumstances in my life, couldn't even control my poor bladder or my teenagers or the broken garbage disposal. But I could elevate my sightline and completely change the vanishing point in the big picture of my little life.
     Whenever the God of the Old Testament wanted to whisper from heaven to His children, he led them up into the mountains. Tibetan Buddhists consider their mountains sacred, a realm where spirit and flesh brush against one another and pure spiritual knowledge is received. The mountains of North America, like Shasta, Navajo Mountain, and the San Francisco Peaks, are revered by Native Americans as points of spiritual power. The nuns in "The Sound of Music" instructed Fraulein Maria to "Climb every mountain!" It's incredible the difference it makes to walk up the side of even the tiniest hill and see your surroundings from a higher view.
     I hiked and hiked. I have cried on the tops of every hill and mountain within an hour of Mesa, Arizona. I have screamed and kicked rocks, and laughed and blown kisses at God. I kept a photocopied sheet of scripture, Moses talking to God, tucked into my fanny pack beneath the water bottle, hard boiled egg, granola bar, lip balm, extra gauze for my weepy scars, and my grandma's clip-on earrings. It was in those moments on the mountains reading about God leading His children out of bondage that I began to feel big again, and received the spiritual strength to hold on and wait for my own deliverance.
     Find a mountain. Climb. Pray. Repeat often and exuberantly.
   
vanishing point
n
1. (Fine Arts & Visual Arts / Art Terms) the point to which parallel lines appear to converge in the rendering of perspective, usually on the horizon
2. a point in space or time at or beyond which something disappears or ceases to exist